Friday, October 30, 2009

Boys...

What is up with boys? I'm so sick of them! Of course, I'm not talking about the male gender, I'm talking about boys. The immature, unthinking, cruel (although sometimes unknowingly). I just don't understand them! Nor do I understand how I act around them.

As women, we know some boys aren't good for us, yet we still insist on chasing them. "I'll call you" he says, and when he doesn't, we rationalize with Maybe I did something wrong, or Oh, he said he'd be busy. Fact is, if the boy were a man, he'd be calling you exactly when he said he would. I know, I know, I sound exactly like the book He's Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillio. Well, they've got a point. many women have read it, and most people (male and female) agree that it makes a lot of sense, yet neither party has changed their behavior. Boys still act like jerks and girls still act like idiots. Even if the sex is bad, even if he made you pay for your own dinner, even if he was 45 mins late: you still slept with him, you still paid and you still waited. And by you, I mean me. Really, how dumb can we be?

This possibly stems from the insecurities we all have. Maybe we think that these boys are the only ones who will ever be interested in us, so we put up with all the crap they throw at us. That's not to say girls don't throw their own crap around too, but I'm a heterosexual female, and girl crap doesn't bother me too much.

When I day dream (about romantic stuff, not dirty stuff) it always involves a man chasing me, and not just for sex. I'm tired of just being either being treated like a piece of meat (yes, that happens to me, even I'm fat :P) or being ignored.

Men, on the other hand, would be a welcomed distraction from school, from family, from, well, boys. Men who are emotionally available, but not weepy. Men who call when they say they will, and even when they don't say so. Men who bring you flowers just because... Are my standards just too high?

Alright, alright, I'll stop whining.

2 comments:

  1. Men are actually just grown up boys. Sometimes they act the way you want them to (like showing up at your work in a suit with a rose) and sometimes they act just as stupidly as boys, and forget that you even exist. Don't lower your standards, just remember that they're never going to meet all of your expectations. Men will meet them half of the time, boys probably never will.

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  2. DO NOT lower your standards! I did that and all I ended up with was heartbreak. It's far, FAR better to be on your own with the prospect of happiness than with someone who prevents you from finding happiness. I love you and want to see you with someone who treats you as you deserve. He's out there - he's just trapped in a cave or something right now.

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